I keep seeing social media captions going around about how this (December 2019) is the last month of the decade, and asking, how will YOU:
Make it the best yet!
Achieve that goal from 10 years ago!
Do that thing you swore you would!
Make every moment count!
Etcetera etcetera etcetera
Ten years is a long time, and this idea that we’re supposed to all-of-the-sudden-make-it-all-happen bothers me. It’s like looking at that “overnight success” in the news or on Instagram, and flat out ignoring the decade or more of all the grind, perseverance, failing, getting back up, changing course, making adjustments, but not quitting, to get to the moment of reaping the rewards of having made it. Let’s not pretend as if there’s ever an actual a moment where we’ve hit our mark, we’re done, we’ve made it, and now let’s just kick back. Nope. After goals are achieved, we humans evolve, grow, and typically reach for more, even if looks completely different from the original plan. Personally, I’ve always felt turned off by motivation through fear and scarcity, and feeling pressed to sprint to a finish line.
This perspective of mine won’t be news to you if you’ve been reading my blog for a while. You already know that I think things take time, diligence, and patience. That I favor breaking big projects into manageable bits, setting small achievable goals to feed and support your larger ones, making small changes and building on them over time. And that I’m also a massive fan of being kind and gentle to yourself as you’re striving to make change and grow.
And what about enjoyment, and focusing on reflection and celebration? This year, I’ve loved seeing people share their “2009/2019 challenge” photos on social. I find it fun to see how very different and also how similar everyone looks, but I especially love the related reflections they share. Personally, it’s been quite a decade. Things are just so different today than they were 10 years ago, here are some highlights:
– Moved from LA to NYC, New York is something I never thought I’d do
– Gone from brunette back to blonde : )
– Lost weight, gained weight, got off the weight hamster wheel and into fitness **(okay, I still care about my weight – working on it)**
– Evolved my entire business, and built something new and so much more a fit for ME
– Made friends, and lost friends
– Grieved loved ones, life and relationship changes