I know how daunting it can feel, with everything you’ve got going on right now to feel overwhelmed, so I’m going to get right to the point.
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Today, I’m writing especially to those of you who are finding themselves moving from one moment of conflict to another. If that’s you, overwhelmed with managing tension, either at home or at work, here’s my #1 tip for you: PAUSE.
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You don’t have to respond emotionally, reactively, or even right away. Take a moment to breathe and think. Still not ready to respond (instead of react)? Just say that. Tell the person you’re engaged in conversation (or heated battle) with, that you need some time to think and will circle back. I assure you, it’s ok! And, honestly, preferred, if it means erring on the side of cool-headedness and avoiding unnecessary, time and energy-sucking conflict.
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At its core, most conflict is rooted in communication misfires. Not articulating clearly, being misheard, dwelling in reactivity and emotion, and more—all contribute to conflict churning. If you want to hone your skills, I’m going to be taking all this deeper next week on a FREE webinar with my pal Dara Kessler, parenting coach extraordinaire.
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We’ll give you simple and practical skills to get yourself heard better. Honestly, clean communication—developing your ability to hear, to be heard, and to be understood—is the #1 way to better manage conflict and have more ease in all your relationships. I hope you’ll join me there. Here’s the link!
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